Friday, March 15, 2013

Mommy Mantra


A friend of mine wrote a blog post recently about how difficult it can sometimes be as a mom to balance everything in your life: kids, work, home, husband, etc. In her words, it can sometimes feel like you're barely treading water. (Shout out Jayme! :) I found this to be very relevant because I think this is something that every mom has struggled with at some point or another. (I know I have.) As moms, it is easy to get bogged down by our busy lives and feel overwhelmed, tired, and stressed.

I've been doing this whole mom thing for going on 15 months now, and during that time I have created what I call my Mom Mantra, to help me deal with moments like this. The mantra is, "I'll do my best". It's simple, but if I repeat it to myself it helps calm me when I get overwhelmed by everything going on in my life.

If I have a hectic work day or Sophie is being uncooperative, and I feel like I'm struggling to get through the day, I think to myself, I'll do my best to get through this day/hour/minute. And when I lay down at night and recap the day in my head, and say to myself, "I did my best", then that's all that matters. If I didn't get everything done on my to do list, or I lost my cool for a few minutes, it doesn't matter, because I tried my best, and that's really all we can do.

I also think this mantra helps me keep an even head, and not get wrapped up in comparing myself to other moms who seem to be effortlessly doing it all. Because we all know that isn't the case. There is no mom out there who is navigating everything perfectly; it just isn't possible. So give yourselves a break fellow mamas! And, know that if you're doing your best, you are doing enough. And more likely than not, you are doing a fantastic job. :)

Friday, March 1, 2013

On Having "Me Time" as a Working Mom

On Wednesday I took a vacation day. I knew going into this vacation day that it would not be a real vacation. Yes I was off work, but I took the day off because I had a dentist appointment and a million other things I needed to do. Thus, it was more of a Chore day than a Vacation day.

So I "slept in" until 8:00, showered and got ready, and dropped Sophie off at the sitter's by 9:15 so I could make it to my 9:30 dentist appointment. After my appointment was over, I let Sophie stay with the sitter so I could clean the house and run some much needed errands. As most parents know, it is nearly impossible to clean your house with a toddler underfoot, and it makes grocery shopping much more of a chore as well.

I really needed this day. I needed a day to get things done. But I have to say, I have trouble taking days like this for myself. It's hard as a working mom because you are away from your child so much during the week while you're at work. So most days I have off I try to spend with Sophie. I felt guilty because I could have technically had her with me that day, but it would have made things more difficult. Plus, I really wanted some "Me" time. Even though this wasn't what I would have used to have referred to as Me time. Back before I had a child if I had taken a day off from work I probably would have slept until 10:30, lounged around in my pajamas, watched a bunch of crap television, and maybe painted my toenails.

Instead I cleaned the house, did the dishes and two loads of laundry, dropped our comforter off at the cleaners, went to Sam's Club and Walmart, and went home and unloaded the groceries. I did all of this, and was done on time to pick Sophie up by 3:30. It's funny how my life has changed.

I am happy with this change though. I felt a sense of accomplishment getting all of that done. (Oh and I also had dinner cooked and ready to be eaten by the time Chase got off work.) As a busy working mom I have to weigh my priorities, and take advantage of what little free time I can get.

However, this doesn't mean I don't ever take any real Me time, or time to just relax. It just isn't as frequent. Last night Chase and I went to dinner sans baby, and it was really nice. And I also have a lovely massage gift certificate from Valentine's Day that my wonderful hubby got for me, which is burning a hole in my pocket. I plan to use it soon on a real Me day.

So tell me fellow working mommies, how do you spend your Me time? Do you relax and really enjoy it, or are you like me, and usually end up spending it doing chores?

Friday, February 22, 2013

Buying for Baby: My Tips on What to Buy and What to Skip

I just read a fellow blogger's post about what baby items she found most useful when she had her two kids, and what items she found to be a waste. This inspired me to write my own post on the subject. Of course keep in mind every mom and baby is different so these lists won't always be the same for everyone. But here's my two cents:

What I Couldn't Live Without:
  • Playtex Ventaire Bottles (the ones without the liners) 
When I was pregnant I bought the Playtex Ventaire Starter Set, which came with both small and large size bottles and both slow flow and fast flow nipples. This was great because I was able to start Sophie off on the smaller bottles with the slow flow nipples at first, and move her to the larger bottles with the fast flow as she grew. She never had any problem with them, and they were really easy to clean. I highly recommend them! (We tried the famous Dr. Brown bottles and I was not impressed. Too many parts to take apart and clean and I didn't think they made a difference in the gas department.)
  • Bassinet
We used the bassinet for Sophie until she was 3 months old. She slept really good in it, and I liked it because it was so small and fit easily next to our bed without taking up too much space. I never really got into the Pac-N-Play thing. They are just so big and take up so much room!
  •   Velcro Swaddlers
Sophie wasn't actually that big on swaddling, but early on when we first brought her home we swaddled her for a little while just because we felt like we were supposed to. However, I never figured out how to actually swaddle her with a blanket. Luckily my sister bought me one of those Velcro Swaddle blankets and it was great. (I don't remember what the actual name is for these.) They are blankets that are already sewn into a pouch that have velcro flaps you just fold over and fasten to swaddle your baby. It made the swaddling process so much easier! However, once we figured out she didn't actually prefer to be swaddled we ditched it all together.
  • Gas Drops/Similac Sensitive Formula for Fussiness and Gas 
Sophie was a fussy baby. She had stomach trouble for the first 3 months of her life. First she had acid reflux, then she just had an upset/gassy tummy a lot of the time. When we finally made the switch to the Similac Sensitive Formula for Fussiness and Gas it made a world of difference! And the gas drops helped too. Even for breastfed babies gas drops are a good thing to have on hand.
  • Rocking/Vibrating Swing
Our swing was an absolute Godsend for us. Sophie actually slept in her swing for a really long time until she got used to sleeping flat, at which point we transitioned her to her bassinet. When all her tummy troubles were going on sleeping upright seemed to help her. And our swing would hook onto a larger part that made it rock back and forth, or you could take it off and it would still vibrate. This came in very handy for when I was home alone with Sophie and wanted to take a shower. I'd just take her little vibrating swing seat into the bathroom and she'd be happy as a clam while I did my thing.
  • Dillard's Sheep Baby Mat
My sister bought one of these for Sophie and we got a ton of use out of it! They are pricey, but they are definitely worth it. They are super soft, are a good size, but not too large, come in several different cute animal choices, and can be found at Dillard's or online. During the day this was Sophie's favorite place to nap.
  • Vulli Sophie the Giraffe Teether
Again this one is a little pricey, but totally worth it. I'll admit I originally bought this because of the name. (Come on Sophie had to have a Sophie the Giraffe teether!) But it actually became Sophie's favorite teether to use. I'm not sure what makes it so special. It's basically a dog toy made for babies. But I know several other moms who also swear by this teether.
  • Gowns
Gowns are the absolute easiest thing to put a baby in. They make night time diaper changes much quicker and take a lot less work than those outfits with a million snaps on them. I suggest you stock up!
  • Activity Walker
When Sophie got old enough to start trying to walk we got her one of these Activity Walkers. ( You can find one here http://www.walmart.com/ip/Fisher-Price-Musical-Activity-Walker/15908176) They are cheap and we really think it helped her learn to walk. She started walking at 9 1/2 months. She loved this walker and used it for a long time, until she got comfortable enough to walk freely. I also recommend this one over the walkers you sit babies in, because I've read that experts are actually not encouraging those types anymore. There have been injuries reported with them. So save yourself some money and go the Activity Walker route!

What I Would Skip:
  • Pacifiers
This one is totally determined by the baby. We had gone out and bought several different types of pacifiers, paci clips, and holders when I was pregnant because we assumed Sophie would take one. However, Sophie never took a paci, not once. So that was a waste. I recommend only buying one or two pacifiers until your baby is born to see if they will actually take one or not.
  • Wipe warmer
Seemed like an unnecessary step. Sophie was fine with her cold wipes.
  • Car seat strap covers
We bought these to put on Sophie's car seat straps so they wouldn't rub against her, but we were told by a Physician's Assistant that they don't recommend using them. So we never used them and Sophie did fine. The straps never bothered her a bit.
  • Baby shoes
I bought several little baby shoes for Sophie thinking how cute they'd be on her. In reality on most days I was lucky if I got Sophie in a real outfit and out of her pajamas, let alone put shoes on her. Until a child is old enough to start walking shoes really aren't necessary.
  • Riding toys
We had several toys for Sophie that she could sit on and ride when she got old enough. We had a pink scooter, a giraffe toy she could ride, and a rocking unicorn. However, Sophie never got the hang of scooting herself so we'd have to push her. And by the time she was able to walk she was over these types of toys and preferred to just run around on her own.
  • Glider
We put a glider in Sophie's room. However, from the time we brought her home we primarily fed her on the couch in the living room. Sophie never wanted to be rocked. And the glider had narrow arm rests that made it difficult for me to rest Sophie's head on during feedings. Next time around I will probably purchase a regular chair with wide stuffed arm rests that would better accommodate her head during feedings.

Undecided:
  • Diaper Genie
We never purchased a diaper genie for Sophie because other mom friends had told me they were a waste. We just put a small trash can in her room. However, her diapers get stinky quickly so we are constantly taking out the trash can. I would probably try a diaper genie next time to see if it would help contain the smell.
  • Nursing Pillow
I didn't breastfeed Sophie so this was never really needed. I did use it a few times to prop her up before she was sitting good on her own. But overall, it wasn't really necessary for us.
  • Bumbo
We used this little seat when we first started feeding Sophie solids. It was smaller and more contained than putting her in the high chair. The only thing is we used it for a pretty short time frame, until we switched her to the high chair. Plus, there have been several warnings come out saying they're dangerous. Which this is only true if you sit your child in it at a high or uneven level, so really I didn't get too worked up over these warnings.

There is my long winded explanation for what I did and didn't find useful for my baby. I don't know if there are any expecting moms that read this blog, but if so I hope this helped! Again, a lot of these things are a personal preference.

And here's a link to the blog that inspired this one if you'd like to check it out. http://www.parenting.com/blogs/true-mom-confessions/erin-zammett-ruddy/baby-gear

**Also it has come to my attention that people have had trouble trying to leave comments on here. If you have a blog or Google account it should let you sign in with your account to leave a comment. Or you can leave one as Anonymous, and just tell me who you are if you want. I would love some feedback! :-)

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

The Morning Rush Plus Some Recipes

Like most working moms, my mornings are crazy. About a month ago Chase's work schedule changed and he now has to be at work by 6:15 every morning, and he doesn't get home until around 5:30-5:45. I work 8-5, hence I am now solely responsible for getting Sophie to and from the sitter's house every single day. The problem with that is I like my sleep, so I don't get up until the absolute last minute. Which means most mornings result in me getting ready in a rush, packing my gym bag and lunch on workout days, packing Sophie's diaper bag, loading the car, getting Sophie dressed and ready, and getting out the door as quickly as possible. (Yes, I realize some of this could be done the night before, but I'm not always that organized.)

Most days we make it out of the house alright. But some days I like to make it even harder on myself by adding in a crockpot dinner or a bit of laundry to my morning craziness. (I am a chronic multitasker.) On those days I am lucky if I get out of the house on time.

But I have to say, after recently jumping on the crockpot bandwagon, I am never going back! They are so convenient. I put the ingredients in the crockpot either the night before or in the morning and turn it on, and wallah when I walk in the door after work our dinner is done! And there are a plethora of crockpot recipes out there to choose from, so I have been able to mix it up. I get most of mine from Pinterest. All the ones I've tried so far have been good, but some were better than others. Here for your enjoyment are some of the best crockpot recipes from Pinterest I've tried thus far. You're welcome and happy cooking!

(Sorry in advance for the mismatch of fonts and font sizes. I just copied and pasted directly from the recipes.)

Cheesy Chicken and Rice
Ingredients:
·         4 boneless skinless chicken breasts
·         1 large onion, chopped (I use Vidalia)
·         1 -8 ounce box Zatarain's Yellow Rice Mix, cooked according to directions
·         1 cup cheddar cheese
·         1 - 10.5 ounce can cream of chicken soup (regular or fat free)
·         1 -15 ounce can whole kernel corn, drained
Instructions:
Place chicken in bottom of slow cooker. Scatter chopped onion over top. Spoon cream soup over top of that. Cover and cook on low 7-8 hours or on high 3-4 hours. A few minutes before serving, add in cooked rice, corn, and cheese. Stir to combine. Serve hot.
Crockpot Cube Steak and Gravy

Ingredients:
Cube steak   (I used a family size pack)
2 cans (10.75 ounce size) cream of mushroom soup
1 envelope onion soup mix
3/4  cup water
Salt and Pepper to taste
Directions:
Place all ingredients in crock pot. Cook on low all day. Serve over rice, noodles, mashed potatoes or with your favorite side dishes.
***I used white rice and it was delicious! I have also done this recipe with chicken.

Crockpot Tex Mex Chicken Nachos

Ingredients:
·         3 (about 1.7 lbs) boneless skinless chicken breasts, cut into ¼ inch-wide strips
·         1 packet Taco Bell Taco Seasoning Mix
·         2 tablespoons all-purpose flour
·         1 red bell pepper, cut into ½-inch-wide strips
·         1 green bell pepper, cut into ½-inch-wide strips
·         1 can sweet corn
·         1 small jar of thick & chunky mild salsa
·         2 cups Mexican shredded cheese (4 cheese variety)
Toppings:
·         sour cream
·         sliced green onions
Instructions:
1.     Spray a 6 QT slow cooker with non-stick cooking spray.
2.     In the bottom, toss the sliced chicken with taco seasoning and flour until coated.
3.     Add peppers, corn and salsa. Mix.
4.     Cook on high for 4 hours or low for 6 – 8 hours.
5.     Serve over tortilla chips with shredded cheese and your favorite toppings.

The Tex Mex Chicken Nachos are cooking in my crockpot as we speak for our dinner tonight, so I haven't actually gotten to taste them yet. But I went home during my lunch today and let me tell you the smell alone let me know this recipe is going to be delicious!

Friday, February 8, 2013

Book Suggestions

As part of my New Year's Resolution I have been trying to read more lately. And I can happily say I have been successful at this so far. Here's a review of the two most recent novels I've read.

I read What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty, which was our February pick for my Book Club. I really enjoyed it. I would describe it as a semi-romantic comedy, but with a more serious plot than most romantic comedies. It had funny parts, but also very serious parts to it. It was an easy read that had an interesting storyline which kept my interest.

After finishing that book I read Blackberry Winter by Sarah Jio. It is a murder mystery that had a plot unlike any other I've ever read. I loved it! It was definitely a sad book, but the storyline was very intriguing and kept you guessing til the very end.

I would highly recommend both of these books to anyone looking for something new to read. Sarah Jio has three novels out and I have also read her first novel The Violets of March, which was also a mystery novel. I enjoyed it as well, but Blackberry Winter surpassed it by a long shot.

Also on my reading list I plan to read:

1.      Best Kept Secret, by Amy Hatvany
2.      Where We Belong, by Emily Giffin
3.      Sweet Tooth, by Ian McEwan
4.      The Middlesteins, by Jami Attenberg
5.      Open House, by Elizabeth Berg
6.   Where’d You Go Bernadette, by Maria Semple
7.   Gone Girl, by Gillian Flynn

These last two books, Where'd You Go Bernadette and Gone Girl, have gotten rave reviews and been highly recommended so I am anxious to dig into them. Have you read anything good lately? If you have any suggestions please let me know, I'm always looking for something new to read!

Sunday, February 3, 2013

Traveling With a Toddler


Sophie enjoying the pool last summer.
We are taking our first family vacation with Sophie at the end of May for my sister Kati's wedding, and I can't wait! We're going to Gulf Shores and staying at a house on the beach. I'm really excited for this trip for a number of reasons: #1 my sister is getting married!, #2 I've never been to Gulf Shores, and #3 I haven't had a real vacation since my Honeymoon 2 1/2 years ago.

However, I'm also very nervous because this will be the longest trip we have ever taken with Sophie. The longest trip we've been on so far was 4 hours and she did pretty good. But that trip was several months ago when she was younger and she slept most of the way.

In preparation for this trip I've done some research on traveling with toddlers and asked some friends about their experiences, and I've gotten some good advice. We have decided it would be best to leave at night that way she'll (hopefully) sleep the whole 9 hours there. So the plan as of right now is to let her fall asleep in her crib, wait about an hour for her to be good and asleep, and then transfer her from her crib to the car while she's still knocked out, and fingers crossed she'll remain asleep until we reach our destination.

But, its the trip home that I'm really worried about. On the last day of the trip we have to check out of the house by noon, which means we have to leave in the middle of the day. So we're going to have to find a way to entertain Sophie the whole way home. I've found some good ideas on Pinterest for things like "busy" bags of toys she can play with to keep her preoccupied, and also advice like have a variety of treats on hand for her to eat. These ideas sound great, and hopefully they'll work. But, have I mentioned yet that Sophie HATES the car. She has hated it ever since she was a newborn. She cries even if we're only in it for 5 minutes. I think it's the fact that she's being restrained and can't get up and move around.

I thought this would be something she would outgrow, but she's 13 months old and she still HATES the car. The wedding is over 4 months away so maybe by then she'll get over her hatred of the car, but I'm doubtful. However, a plus side is my wonderful Mom is riding with us, so she'll be there to help us distract Sophie. And I'm sure I'll be very grateful for the help. We shall see how it goes.

Despite my anxiety over the car situation, I'm really looking forward to the trip. Kati is getting married at sunset on the beach- its going to be beautiful! And we'll get to see Sophie experience the beach for the first time! I'm sure she's going to love it, she loves pools already, as you can see from the photo above. Plus with this awful cold weather we've been having lately I cannot wait to escape to a warm beach and lay under the sun!

Anyone else going anywhere fun this summer? Anyone have any tips for traveling with toddlers, please share!

Monday, January 28, 2013

Thinking of the Future

Sophie's future has been on my mind a lot lately. As parents, we have to make certain decisions to plan for and protect our child(ren)'s future. Chase and I have done this by creating Wills for both of us, which establish who Sophie's guardian would be if we both happened to tragically pass away, and who would get our assets (Sophie obviously). We have also started a college fund for Sophie. We met with an Edward Jones financial advisor to discuss our options and decide on the best savings plan for our family. We decided to go with a 529 Plan for her.

These are things parents don't like to think or talk about, but they are important steps that need to be taken. We could have said we were going to "save" for Sophie's college for years, but without actually putting a plan into motion, that may have never happened. Now, I know we will follow through.

And all this thinking about college has made me wonder what advice I should give Sophie when she starts college. When I went to college I decided to major in Journalism and minor in English because I love to read and write. Those were my passions. However, even as I was in school studying Journalism I doubted I would actually go into the field. But I didn't want to pick some boring field I wasn't interested in just to be practical. And I remember my Mom encouraged that I study what I enjoyed and not worry about it.

However, I wonder if I will give that same advice to Sophie when its her turn to choose a major. In this tough economy I now know how hard it is to find a job, and how competitive it can be. I sometimes wonder if I should have chosen a Business or Office Administration degree, something that would have been more applicable to the type of career I actually planned to pursue.

I find myself leaning towards the practical side of advice for Sophie. I want her to enjoy college and not study something that she hates. But at the same time, if she decides she wants to major in something like Art History or Philosophy, I may have to steer her towards something more substantial. I want her to have the best future she can, and that may mean giving her a little tough advice about what the job market is really like, and that she may need to suffer through a Business or Accounting degree over those other more "fun" choices.

Of course all of this may be a little presumptuous. She may grow up loving math or science (which I did not) and want to major in something more practical on her own. Which would be great.

Also, I can't help but point out that we will be (hopefully) paying for that degree of hers, so I would like her to actually use it, unlike me. What do you all think? What advice would you/will you give your child when they're entering college? Will you tell them to be practical or go with their heart? Do we have more say as parents if we're paying for the degree, or should we just be happy they're going at all?

So much to think about. Luckily its 17 years away, so I have a little while to ponder it all. :)